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The Seven Secrets of Success They Should Have Taught You at School
By Abby Eagle (2018)
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In this article I am going to give you a summary of the seven key areas that you need to understand if you want to be a massive success.
1. Present State to Desired Outcome Model
Before you can set a goal you need to get oriented in space and time. Where are you now? Where did you come from? Once you have those two coordinates you can then focus on your destination. This is your desired outcome – your future self – the new you. Five years from now; twelve months from now; four weeks from now – what will your life look like, sound like and feel like? You might find it helpful to do your NLP future selfing exercises on pieces of butchers paper or flip chart paper using pens that flow nicely. Do a NLP future selfing exercise once a week or once a month – or whenever you need to get yourself moving.
2. Personality Type
So once you have a rough idea of your future self you should take a look at your personality type. I suggest you start with the Personality Hacker version of the Myers Briggs. This will type you as one of 16 personality types and gives you four letters. (I am an INTJ).
Then take a look at Roger Hamilton’s Wealth Dynamic Profile – which focuses on your dominant cognitive function which is what you use to get into flow. (I am an Introverted Wealth Dynamics Creator)
Then take a look at the article on NLP Meta Programs. Meta Programs are simple perceptual filters which cluster together to form personality type.
It would also be useful to take the Political Compass Test. This will type you as on the left or right of the aisle - and as an authoritarian or a libertarian.
And at sometime take a look at Jonathan Haidt's Moral Values. He explains political Left and Right more as political values than political affiliations.
Your personality type is your genius - this is who you are – which means you need to choose an occupation which suits your personality type. I believe you can never know enough about personality types. If you work to your personality type then you will find it easier to get into flow.
[Disclaimer: I may get an affiliate commission on some of the tests noted above.)
3. Passion, Interest, environment and diet
It is not unusual for people to not know what their passions and interests are. That might sound strange but when well intentioned parents and teachers coerce children to meeting their own values then quite often the young adult may find themself following someone else's path.
If you follow your passion then you should find yourself in an environment in which there is the potential to flourish. Once you are in that environment then you need to fit yourself into a role which interests you and suits your personality type.
You also need to keep in mind the importance of eating a diet which supports the optimum health of the mind and body.
4. Purpose
So then you come back to your NLP future selfing exercise and you rework your desired outcomes. And then you start asking why? Why do you want that outcome? Why else do you want that outcome? Once you get that outcome then what will you get to have and to experience. What will that mean to you? This clarifies your motivation. What you are looking for are those key driver values that get you out of bed in the morning and propel you though the day.
So when you have time you should also learn how to elicit your values in life, relationship, career and any context that is meaningful to you. Why? Because values determine every decision that you make - so you need to learn how to make a distinction between means values (the lower ranking values) and your highest values which innately you are striving to fulfill. At the end of the day did you do what is important to you or did you waste your time on some meaningless activity?
5. Flow stages
Now flow is defined as an optimal state of consciousness in which you perform at your best. Steven Kotler tells us there are four stages to flow. 1. Struggle. 2. Relax and let go. 3. Flow. 4. Learning and consolidation.
Everything starts with struggle. You set a stretch goal for yourself and you set an intention to take action. You push, you push and at some point you feel like giving up – so you take a break. Go for a walk, have a shower, tidy your office, play a musical instrument, ride your skate board, make a phone call – anything which distracts from the activity. What happens is that your brain waves shift from beta down to alpha – and then with a bit of luck you get bursts of theta and you get that ah ha and you find yourself in flow. If you do a future selfing exercise and follow the four steps above then you will learn how to get yourself into a flow state naturally.
6. Intention – Attention – Task – Focus – Concentrate
So to recap. You do your goal setting – that is you do a NLP future selfing exercise. You learn everything you can about your personality type. And part of that is connecting with the right people. I can’t emphasise that enough – do what you are good at – and then team up with the right people to take care of everything else.
So you put yourself in an environment in which you flourish. You give yourself - or get - a job title and description that supports you. You engage in activities which interest you. You clarify your values – which means you understand what it is that motivates you. And most importantly you learn how you get into flow – you have got to understand that process. And you have to recognise what knocks you out of flow – and what you need to do to get back into flow.
So once you are clear on the task that faces you - then you set an intention which drives your attention onto the task at hand such that you can focus in and concentrate.
7. Questions, Statements and Commands
Now there is another very important element to all of this and that is how you think and talk. If you listen to yourself you will find that you ask questions, make statements and give commands. It is the quality of your thought processes that will determine the quality of your outcomes. So what questions do you need to ask? What statements do you need to make – and what commands do you need to give to yourself?
If you are ready to make some changes then take action right now and contact me either by phone or email. The phone number is on the banner image and the contact form is at the top right of this page. Talk to you soon.
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