How a Husband and Wife Who Are in Business Together Can Learn to Reconcile Their Differences Using NLP
Personal and business relationships can be challenging enough as they are but when a husband and wife work together in the same business then boundaries tend to get blurred and the love aspect of the relationship tends to suffer. It helps to clarify the distinctions between work, personal and play.
Clarify your business model.
- Vision in a three minute elevator speech.
- Mission statement.
- Values and value statements.
- Conditions of the values.
- Behaviours - products and services.
- Unique competitive advantage.
- Set goals. 25 year, 10 year, 5 year, 2 year, 1 year, 6 month, 3 month, monthly, weekly.
- Job title.
- Job description.
Personality Profile.
- Understand each others personality type.
- Work to your strengths and oursource other processes.
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Elicit towards and away- from values.
Many disagreements are about values conflict.
- Elicit life values.
- Elicit relationship values.
- Elicit values in the context of working together.
- Rank values in order of importance.
- Why is the value important?
- Conditions for the value to be met.
Set desired outcomes.
Set written goals. Review goals on a regular basis.
- Stated in the positive. What will you see, hear and feel when you get the desired outcome?
- Is it possible and reasonable?
- Where do you want it?
- When do you want it?
- Why do you want the outcome? For what purpose?
- Are you in alignment with the outcome? Does any part of you or a significant other person have any objections to you achieving this outcome.
- Self initiated and maintained. Are you the sole person to take responsibility for the achievement of the outcome or are you relying upon luck, or someone else?
- Steps and stages. Action plan.
- Do you have the resources?
- Have you made the decision? Are you committed to doing what ever is necessary in order to achieve the outcome.
- How will you know when you have achieved the outcome?
- What is the first action that you can take that demonstrates your commitment?
- Are you willing to hold yourself accountable?
How to make workplace decisions?
Partners in business need to check on their role in the business and defer when necessary to their partner.
- Check job description and title.
- Refer to business model.
- Abstract up to get agreement.
- Chunk down on the details.
- Chunk back up when you disagree.
- Put the decision in writing and sign it.
Personal issues.
- Clear negative emotions.
- Build in resource states.
- Stress management program, meditation, yoga, etc.
- Daily stress management needs to be costed into the business.
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